Here’s a fun activity…have you ever considered what the songs that resonate deeply with you can tell you about yourself? Well, let’s dive into that thought experiment together, shall we?
Okay, I’ll go first…
One of my favorite love songs is Sarah McLachlan’s “Do What You Have to Do”
I actually have about a gazillion favorite songs because I am unable to narrow down to just one or two faves…I LOVE MUSIC, it moves my soul and my booty.
Music saved my life in my teenage years, providing me with a mentor, an emotional outlet, a community, reasons to not be in my tumultuous home, and deep breathing exercises that helped me decompress (even though I didn’t realize it at the time). It can help us cope with and process emotions…and it can even help us identify some subconscious beliefs, feelings, memories, conditioning, and/or rules we have about ourselves, others, love, the world, and more.
This particular song speaks to me of love I could not have no matter how badly I needed it…it tells the story of my love and unbalanced commitment to mother and family that left me feeling unworthy, disconnected, and lacking in love. It indicates what I once believed to be my story…love just out of reach, knowing that in order to survive I had to let go and save myself; yet not knowing how to truly let go. This song represents a time in my life when I was unable to fill myself up, when I longed for someone else’s love to do what I could not do for myself – a time when I developed the subconscious belief that I didn’t deserve love and that love would always be painful and just out of my reach, leaving me to feel separate and disconnected from myself, others, and the world.
I used to hear this song and feel instantly reconnected with the old painful beliefs and memories…now I hear an old story that someone else wrote for me, a story which is no longer my own. I still love this song, because a) I can listen to it without recreating or reconnecting to those old feelings (as an Empath, I had to take a break from listening to some of these old songs that reconnected me to past pain/trauma…but it wasn’t a forever break, just some time off for deep healing).
Music can be powerful in the process of healing…what does your favorite (love) song tell you about how you love yourself and others, or what you believe to be true about yourself in relation to love? I’d love to hear your songs and stories in the comments…
Soooo, what do you do with this information once you are aware of it? You can breathe calmly and tap gently over your heart until you feel a wave of calm/relaxation wash over you, or until you feel like there is no longer any emotional charge to the memory/beliefs you’ve uncovered…release that emotional energy that is stored inside your body, spend a little time tending to your needs this way. Learn more about breathing and tapping to process emotional energy here.
With introspective exercises such as this one, you may open a can of emotional muck that you need help with…remember there are videos and resources to help you process emotions on your own, and Michelle can help you identify and sever those emotional energy cords causing you discomfort or dis-ease in your body, mind or life if you need it…we all need a little help from time to time, especially when it comes to those shadowy aspects hidden deep within our subconscious.